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Post by ItsMeAlice on Dec 31, 2009 13:07:07 GMT -5
It seems we are waiting for another upgrade to be completed. So while we're waiting and dreaming of having the Thanks button return, I thinking about what I could be doing to say on the recovery bus for the New Year Holiday.
I'm away from my XABF these days and hanging with a more wholesome crowd who prefer sober fun in a more family oriented atmosphere...so taking verbal abuse from a wasted man with a chip on his shoulders is something I'm hoping to avoid this year for the first time in a long long time.
If things do get dicey with anyone who's had a little too much wine with dinner or someone who's holiday baggage gets loaded at my feet, I plan to take a deep breath, leave the conversation and if needed leave to my room without engaging in an argument and settle in with a novel I recently started. That's my backup plan, my safety net. I know my evening won't be ruined and I will enjoy the rest of my evening snuggled in with my pets.
How about the rest of you?? We've got the time here, let's make the best of it. How 'bout it?
Alice
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Post by kassie2 on Dec 31, 2009 13:48:44 GMT -5
Hi, I left the room to check on the laundry and came back to this. I was runn ing a thread on whether to respond to my husband's email to talk. My plans for the day and evening include: making a blanket to keep me warm, I have a puzzle to start and lots of books to read in addition to raking up some scores on the arcade which is obviously delayed. Oh well, being flexible.
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Post by ItsMeAlice on Dec 31, 2009 14:32:46 GMT -5
Flexibility is a good starting point. Go with the flow and just pick a theme. Is it quiet and introspective...Is it music and dusting the knickknacks...is it baking cookies and reading a good book...maybe calling friends to wish them a happy New Year to start the year off with renewed feeling of companionship.
It can be healthy and sane even with an A in your life. When I was with my X I kept busy making snacks in the kitchen and baking cookies and such. He'd pass out and I'd scoot upstairs with the pets and watch the New Year's specials and taste the yummy fruits of my labor. I tried out new recipes and the leftovers got saved for dinners that week.
I know more of you have viewed this thread so are there any others ready to chime in?
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Post by Anvilhead on Dec 31, 2009 14:49:12 GMT -5
 oh shuuurrrrre, i finally come back to post and so they take the whole darn SITE down? i get the hint!!! i was just thinking this morning how absolutely marvelous it is that we don't really have "plans" for NYE. gosh so many years past we'd be breaking land speed records to the dope man's house and back, and gathering all the necessary whatnots and then proceeding to have a totally suck@ss time, A-GAIN and greeting the new year wishing simply for a bullet to the brain to make it stop! if we even SEE 10pm, much less midnite, i'll be surprised!!! i imagine some morons in the neighborhood will set off fireworks, at which bucky will come flying off the bed in full bark, and della will just be terrified. that's probably as exciting as it gets for us old fogies!
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Post by kassie2 on Dec 31, 2009 15:16:23 GMT -5
So, when I decided to view some tv I discovered everything is preempted by sports ! is there a conspiracy? Trying to enjoy my afternnoon - cold and snowy- no tv -no games - anyone feeling my pain? If I had known today would go this way I would have done my errands today instead of yesterday - eventhough it was nice that my daughter took the day to run my around so I wouldn't have to.
Would have liked to spent this evening with my H, but this addiction thing is a killer in relationships and fun. At least I can do what I want to do. Let's keep in touch tonight.
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Post by ItsMeAlice on Dec 31, 2009 15:19:48 GMT -5
The other forum really has me spoiled. This temporary forum makes me feel like I'm sending up smoke signals.  Anvil I hear you...we had some icy rain this morning so it added to my trip out of the house. That gave me a little extra time to reflect on where I was last year in my relationship and where I am this year. It feels like worlds away. It's not paradise, but it's got it's perks. For one, my housemate and his friends throw a party every year fit with every snack imaginable and they've been cooking since early this morning, and I'm invited to the festivities. The house is alive with chatter and snacks and music and besides the usual squabble about how to boils eggs just right or how fine to chop the onions, there is laughter and friendship. My HP has guided this journey and I understand now why when my living situation with my friend went sour I wound up here. For the first time in a long while I can choose quiet or happy chaos and the threat of drunken abuse is not looming over the day. I am hoping to make it to midnight this year. A little caffeine along the way may help. I'd like to meet the New Year at the door with a smile. "Hi, good to see you, thank God your here. Ready for anything? I am." Alice |
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Post by freya on Dec 31, 2009 15:23:34 GMT -5
Earlier today, I met with a relatively new sponsee and then went to a new (to me), very good meeting with her and her fiance. This afternoon, I am making sausage ravioli with a spicey pepper and onion tomato sauce, and my no-longer-ex (got to post more about that once I am able to better wrap my mind around what's going on with us) is coming over for dinner and then we are going to go to her place (so we can be alone!) and maybe watch a movie or find something more fun to do  until 2010 strikes! Hope everyone has a great New Year and a totally awesome 2010! freya |
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Post by sugah on Dec 31, 2009 16:17:32 GMT -5
Hey, all. In the event that the main board doesn't come back up before we take off, I just wanted to wish everyone a very happy sane and sober New Year.
We're off to our district's annual NYE celebration. Got a box of garden goodies (canned salsa, hot peppers & dried creations) packaged for the white elephant auction, hoping the lucky recipient has an iron stomach!
Peace & Love,
Sugah
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2009 16:28:29 GMT -5
For the first time in memory, I'm alone for NYE and I don't mind a bit. My daughter has gone snow-tubing with a friend, so I rented a couple of movies for myself and stocked up on chocolate and licorice. I'll have a lavender bath later, light some candles, and snuggle in bed with the dogs and cats. I went to a meeting tonight and met a new girl who I look forward to working with. Happy New Year to all.
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Post by ItsMeAlice on Dec 31, 2009 16:34:57 GMT -5
Rowan that's sounds like heaven!
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Post by kassie2 on Dec 31, 2009 17:00:35 GMT -5
Well, it never fails, H emailed me twice - both times to express his anger and his sense of justice. Glad I did not respond earlier or now. Seems that nothing has really changed.
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Post by ItsMeAlice on Dec 31, 2009 17:36:23 GMT -5
I'm so sorry Kassie2. You're evening is not turning out the way you had hoped and it seems your H is holding you responsible for it.
Well, you don't have to play that game at all. Focus on a quiet NYE here where you are appreciated.
I know now that the more I try to have expectations about any event or interaction with others, the odds of my coming out disappointment and feeling like a schmuck skyrocket.
Much love,
Alice
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